Unconditional Love

I am a flawed, fallible human being. Therefore I cannot offer much wisdom or insight.
However, I do have one single thing I can shed some light on. I want to share with you the one most important lesson I have learned through my work as a Past Life therapist.


In Past life therapy we go back to past lives to fix current problems or issues.
What has been coming up over and over again with my clients, not only in PLR but in clairvoyant readings too, is how we mishandle love so systematically on earth. Many of the karmic mistakes that have to be "fixed" or put right, deal exclusively with not having loved unconditionally. For example, one client was a queen and could not have a proper friendship with her housemaid. When I asked why, she said "I just cannot, she is beneath my station". Many, many clients had the situation where they were married when they met their true love, and they chose to just keep their love on the side while staying married out of obligation. So they had to repeat the challenge for many lifetimes, and are still in the same situation. For some clients, the pressure from family was extreme: "My mother will have a heart attack and she just could not handle it if i got divorced". And the children are an added pressure. For others, it is the case where one of them is considered unmarriable because they are considered "immoral", for example a female who had multiple partners in the past, or who is a prostitute, or a dancer, etc. Jesus handled this rather well with Mary Magdalen, though it is not widely accepted nowadays that Mary Magdalen had a past. Perhaps we are trying to change what is good and right in order to fit with our flawed culture. I myself cannot moralise, I just want to share what I see, which is that if you don't follow your heart, you will have to keep repeating the scenario in life after life until you do the right thing. Oftentimes the true love is a female which is not considered chaste, and the guy is a married man. So the consequences of following your heart is harsh. But it seems as if society needs to learn and accept, not judge. When people talk about the high divorce rates, they dont know the true causes. I have listened to suicidal English men and women who out of consideration for their spouse and children would rather die than do themselves and their beloved a favour and choose love. Sometimes it is love between cultural and racial lines. When looking at a past life, it is easy to think that they should just have followed their hearts, but I myself have done the same mistake and had to repeat it. I am now born into a conservative minority culture which rarely intermarries. And despite what I have learned it is still not easy to go against society. If my true love happened to be a drug addict, or simply not Kurdish, or someone my parents didnt like, or from a different social class, I would have a problem. My conviction helps me deal with it, but I would have a problem nonetheless. While working as a very busy ring-up clairvoyant, about 90% of my calls dealt with this very issue: people who are in love but feel they should not be united. The situation often seems impossible: The beloved is settled abroad, they are a prostitute, they are at the other side of a war, they killed your brother, they are a long-lost half sibling, they do not speak your language, they cannot enter your country, they are the same sex as you, they are transsexual, they are an orphan, or any mixture of these things which makes society or communities put pressure on you to be apart. The spiritual lesson seems to be to go against society and do the right thing. 

One client came with her boyfriend. She was from a very very conservative culture and had a "past". She may have been sexually abused, but in the eyes of society she was just considered promiscuous considering her culture. Her boyfriend brought her to me to look into the truth of her sexual past through hypnosis, but it became apparent she was just a sweet, trusting person, no more perfect than anyone else. But he himself was married. They were deeply in love and he had chosen in past lives to stay having an affair with her while he was married. The same thing was happening now. I was so unsure whether it was morally right to accept them as clients knowing what his purpose was but something inside told me they chose me for a reason, and that there is something to learn here as many couples struggle with the same issue of female sexuality. Their challenge now was to be together despite family pressures (which in their community is not only huge but also just a way of life), and the "unsuitability" of their match. One instinctively thinks "But what about the wife?" And my answer to that is that there is probably a lesson in there for her too. We don't get challenges for no reason. Besides, I have no doubt she can find greater happiness with someone else. After all, she is cared for, respected, and looked after. What else can she ask for? He cannot help not being in love with her. Nor did it ever seem to me that the spouses ever hold on out of love, but rather in order to keep their life in order. As for the kids, as long as they are being looked after and cared for, and there is no hostility between the parents, who is to say it wouldn't be better for them? I do not condone ripping up families, I hope everyone involved will be considered, but I am just sharing what I have learned. And I do it because it is such a common life lesson which so many people have to deal with.