So selfish

This quote was posted on the blog Positive Feelings, and I think it is VERY important. I myself came to the conclusion that I need to think only of what is good for me (and not worry too much about others, so long as I dont hurt anybody of course) when I left home at 18 years old. I was struggling with feeling bad about not being able to make my mum happier, and i was feeling really miserable about how she wasnt as happy as I wished her to be. I also noticed how she was feeling miserable because I was not as happy as she wished me to be. But if one of us just quit being miserable, that would help us both. So i tried to get her to stop worrying about me and only think of herself. That didnt work. So all i really could do was to worry about myself and accept that i had no power over her wellbeing. I could only encourage her to think more of herself, but apart from that there was nothing i could do. This is all easier said than done, but ultimately you really cannot do anything for anybody. They have to want happiness for themselves, and then they can accept any assistance you might offer. We are only responsible for ourselves. But damn that's hard in the family, right? Seeing someone unhappy can make you miserable, when you could have made them feel better by just remaining in a good mood and not getting affected by their feelings. So i am posting this really for those in my life i care deeply for, but also for those other people who are deeply loved and have people around them who wanna see them happy. Namely you.

Abraham : We’re wanting you to want so much for your own personal joy, that you can be as selfish as your cat. Your cat, who may focus upon you in the moment, or may not, but we promise you, your cat will do whatever is best for it. And where humans got the idea that their own individual, personal suffering was in any way good for anybody else, defies all Laws of all Universes that we have ever encountered. Feeling good is good, and is your indication of your full Connection with who You are. So, we’re wanting to help you to remember, to reorient you, to, almost to shock you into, the awareness that every Consciousness, which includes your full human form, and even the cells in your body–every Consciousness is, and must continue to be, selfishly oriented. Because, unless you are reaching for what is individually best for self, you cannot stay connected to Source. And the Whole, that is Well-Being based, cannot continue to be.
Your freedom will truly come to you when you learn to exercise the power of your own focus. And we have never met anyone who could exercise the power of their own focus, who didn’t first decide, “I really, really, really want to feel good. Nothing is more important than that I feel good. Everything other than that is irrelevant. I am going to focus upon that which feels good.” As you begin to let feeling good be your dominant quest, everything in your environment begins to take shape to that–because your environment is coming in response to your thoughts.

Peace :)